“Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to success.” ― Charles F. Glassman
If you’re a human, I’m sure you’ve experienced a torrent of negative thoughts and/or feelings throughout your life. In our daily lives, it’s nearly impossible to avoid unpleasant feelings or ideas. Negative thoughts can have an impact on every part of your life. It reduces your productivity and can taint your attitude toward others. If you only have a limited amount of time to devote to self-development, dealing with your negative thoughts is a wise way to use that time.
Even the most resilient individuals can be dragged down by negativity. That’s why negative thought patterns are so pernicious—they can progressively erode our confidence to the point where we doubt everything we do.
So, how can we stop allowing such thoughts to gain the stability they require in our minds?
Here are a few suggestions for overcoming negative thinking:
1.Stop Thinking Negatively so Often: To put unwanted ideas to rest, identify them, concentrate on them, and then learn to say, “Stop.” The more you focus on your negative thoughts, the more they will influence you and your daily activities. So, instead of trying to eradicate negative thoughts entirely, your objective should be to improve your ability to detect and battle them.
Simply stating that you will never have a negative thought won’t assist you in overcoming your negative thinking. It’s only helpful as a short-term approach. That’s because, no matter how hard you try, you will have negative thoughts at some point in your life. And if you haven’t taken the time to create strategies for fighting negative thinking, those thoughts and feelings will begin to dominate you, drag you down.
2.List Your Negative Thoughts: This is a fantastic practice since it is something you can do physically to improve your mental state in a short amount of time. The next time you have a negative thought, take a piece of paper, write everything you’re thinking down, write down where it came from, and then rip the paper up and throw it away.
Even though it seems a little crazy, you’d be surprised at how successful it is. Try it out and see the change for yourself.
3. Recognize Your Thinking Styles: Understanding how you think right now is one of the first steps in changing your negative thought habits. If you can recognize how you shape your thoughts, you can begin to manage the impact they have on you. If you your success and failure in every situation, you are engaging in black-and-white thinking, and this kind of application can have dire consequences.
Negative thinking habits include making rash decisions, overthinking things, and overgeneralization. There are a few small differences in detrimental thought habits; though they all have reality distortions and irrational perspectives on events and individuals.
4. Challenge Your Negative Thinking: It’s easy to become enthralled by negative thinking. So, before you decide that calling in sick would get you fired or that missing one deadline will put you out of a job, realize that your negative thinking may be exaggerated.
Ask yourself whether those thoughts are reasonable. Are these accurate portrayals of the situation? Or are your negative ideas magnified because of your worries and negative approaches?
It’s important to remember that your emotions will hinder your ability to perceive things rationally. Examine the evidence from a different perspective. What information do you have that your thinking is correct? What evidence do you have that your assumptions are incorrect?
5. Forget What Others Think About You: The lower energy of doubters and negativity impact us all. You will fall further into despair if you have a pessimistic mentality. Take steps to eliminate objects or people in your life that make you think or feel negatively. Even if it isn’t always possible when these people are family members, you can always avoid engaging in a negative conversation. Learn to acknowledge and move on.
Nowadays, news and social media may have a significant impact on our feelings and thoughts. Individuals who are hostile and unhelpful should be unfollowed. Keep in mind that there is a fine line between civic awareness and psychological addiction to dread and suffering when it comes to how much news you consume on a daily basis.
6. Always Remember to Take a Break: One way to distance yourself from negative thinking is to allow yourself a specific amount of time (no more than 10 minutes) to think the negative thoughts. Then put an end to it, and go on with your day. This exercise will gradually but surely train your mind to deal with negative thoughts and eventually eradicate them.
7. Learn to be Grateful: Most people underestimate the importance of gratitude, although it is critical to living a happy life. Even when you’re depressed, there are always little things to be thankful for. Knowing that positive things are happening around you might make you happy. Create a Good List and refer to it daily. Also, be extremely precise about what you want. A focused, positive mind will attract what it seeks over time.
8. Concentrate on Your Positive: The more you attempt to concentrate on your strengths rather than your previous errors, the simpler it will be to have a good attitude in life. If you find yourself thinking negatively about your behavior or personality, take a moment to refocus your thoughts on something you like about yourself.
Everybody has negative thoughts from time to time. However, if the majority of your thoughts are negative, you will be unhappy at the end of the day. Our thoughts have a direct impact on how we feel and, as a result, what we do in life.
Understanding what causes negative thinking is the first step in overcoming it. So, utilize the techniques given above to keep negative thoughts from holding you back!